living better: losing the shoulds

It’s the one word that can make me feel bad about myself in every area in my life. It’s the one word that can make me worry about things I don’t really care about. And it’s the one word that can make me lose my vision of what I really want. “I should be skinnier” “I shouldn’t enjoy food as much as I do”  “I should be X, Y, & Z”. 

It's not about never doing anything hard or never reaching goals. It's about where you're motivation comes from. Having this type of external focus too easily leads us to spend our daily lives doing things based on what we think we “should” do rather than what we “want”, “need” or mindfully decide to do. -More.

I’m losing my I shoulds and replacing them with I wants. I want to be fit & healthy. I want to enjoy life. I want to stop comparing myself to others & their metabolisms. I want to do things that make me happy. Read more about shoulds here.


  1. I love your blog! I once had a friend (who is a therapist) tell me to "stop should-ing all over myself" because I always thought I should be or do things differently. It has helped and I think it's a funny phrase.

  2. this is pretty powerful! i'm going to stop shoulding too!


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